Upgrading your Partner

One thing i have noticed nowadays that is becoming more rampant and popular nowadays that i have noticed is young couples not staying together long enough and hence upgrading their current relationship and marrying someone younger, more educated and probably more adventurous while dumping their wives of 10+ years and starting a new life. I dont have a tag name for it yet but i am using the term upgrading for now.



I have a friend whose 21 year old brother proposed to his 19 year old girlfrend a couple of months ago and when she told me i became very furious and asked her what she was gonna do about it and she said nothing then i asked what her parents were gonna do about it and she said they couldnt do much even though they were against the idea and all i could do was shake my head and feel bad for them. I am sick and tired of looking at Families who are afraid to interfere or step in their offsprings lives out of fear the kid will say something or leave home. I refuse to dumbdown so my kids can get away with something like that.



I have seen too many young couples marry in their early 20's and start a family and by their 10 year anniversary they are ready to call it quits and start a newer family while breaking the core of their existing families . I seriously believe nowadays that most people should at least wait till they are at least 30 before they get married but some will laugh at the suggestion and get married and before you know it are planning a divorce a couple of years down the road.
Marriage is more complicated nowadays thanks to the media and what it sells as instant gratuity which makes it hard for people to commit into a long term relationship. Growing up Divorce was like a taboo and looked down upon so Couples put in an extra effort not to fall into that category but in this new day and age its not unusual for a couple of 30yrs to decide to call it quits simply because they think they can do better.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but now is the time for people to date people not so close in age to avoid competition and to also provide more security in the relationship and yes this is where maturity comes into place because when you are dating someone a lot younger you are sacrifing the fact that she might not be as intelligent, experienced and mature and it goes vice versa for the woman because the man might not be an adonis, might not be as fulfilling in bed and might not be so open minded to do lots of fun stuff that younger folks do but it will at least provide a security blanket and a respect mechanism in the house and then you can grow in the relationship.

For lots of couples that marry young and grow a family together and are now in their late 30s and kids are off to college its become practically impossible for them to remain together nowadays. I have heard way too many couples say that as soon as the kids are off to college i am out which is sad but i blame it on the closeness in age and society. We all know that women mature faster than men so when she marries a guy closer to her in age she is practically dumbing down quite a lot to make the relationship work and a lot of times is creating a negative environment at home where she is resented for being right or sometimes for even helping out. A Decade of this power tussle and external factors eventually break up many of these unions and we notice that the man now wants to date someone 10 plus years younger who looks up to him and the woman might want to find her younger adonis type individual she has craved for years.

All in all the marriage institution needs to be re examined because Marriage is not necessarily for everyone and even though it works most of the time it takes a lot of sacrifice and manipulation which society doesnt have patience for nowadays so folks need to really know what they want out of a relationship before jumping into it for selfish reasons like my Soror sister had a beautiful wedding and so do i or all my mates are getting married so i must find a sucker to settle down with or other trivial reasons for tying the knot.

Daddy's who play with little girls

I am sick and tired of this never ending cycle of societal dysfunction in our communities. It is killing us and creating monsters everywhere i go. This is personal and i wish something can be done about it. I can honestly say majority of the women i have dated have at one time been abused and molested by a family member and/or friend and its one of the most painful experiences a girl/woman can ever go through and for the most part pretty much determines a lot of decisons they are going to make in life and mainly negative.

This disease is one of the most suppressed ills of all times and is committed all over the world and knows no boundaries whether rich or poor , pretty or ugly , old or young. the list goes on. Abuse of any kind is very hard to overcome but molestation and incest is the Mother of all these illnesses and i have personally seen one too many beautiful ladies turn into monsters due to this.
Thanks to these sick and selfish people we have more strip clubs and bars than schools in some communities. I remember befriending a Guy who ran a few strip clubs in Dallas simply because he was trying to buy a house from me and we got to talking and i probed him about what his job really entailed and he pretty much said his job was to babysit the dancers and also to get rid of the rowdy guests without incident because the more police reports could mean shutting down the establishment.

The sad thing about this situation is that this guy is a former boxer and has been hit in the head one too many times and i know his IQ is probably in the low 50s but he is responsible for a lot of these people who work for him. He claimed that many of the girls who come to work have a history of molestation by relatives and due to this have a history of low self esteem and also need money to survive so his job is basically be that father figure and they will do anything for you which just sounds like legalizing being a pimp.

I have always had my gripe with the Western World because there is something about the Western world and loneliness where it teaches you to be lonely and not family and friends around while you are consumed with work and paying bills and you easily lose yourself. You marry and have kids and live in a big house and dont make friends with your neighbors and your family dont come to visit because you moved out of the neighborhood and now they think you are too uppity and you bury yourself in work and take out your frustration on your family since they are the only sitting targets who cannot leave you. You are depressed and you notice your teenage daughter growing into that woman you fell in love with 20 years ago and due to idleness and other fucked up thoughts you mistake her adoration of you by sitting in your lap and innocent flirting with you as inviting you and before you know it you have fucked her up for the next guy she has to date.

Now we have to deal with someone who has now switched off her emotions when it comes to sex and now thinks its a dirty act and that you are no different from Dad, Uncle XYZ or Cousin IT and are only after one thing. Now you have to deal with sleepless nights of bad nightmares and dreams that cannot be resolved. Now you are blamed for everything that is wrong with her and have the slightest idea. You are totally against seeking professional help because historically its not done in your community so you live with this disease killing her and just pray that it will go away even though you dont even know what the problem is in the first place but still pray.

The cycle is passed down and she becomes a mother and loves her daughter yet resents her for the same reason that she thinks the same might happen in her family. She resents you for a crime you have not committed yet . She becomes envious of her daughter as soon as she starts to blossom into a young woman causing the daughter to be motivated to seek shelter and love elsewhere even if it means leaving home in her teenage years because of so much hostility in the household.

If only you could control your sick thoughts and lay your hands off her maybe she will be ok, maybe she would have turned out to be a loving mother, Maybe your community wouldnt be as bad as it is right now. Maybe love will be in the air and maybe many could have lived happily ever after but NO you had to show the world the animal that you are.

Modern Technology i can do without

Nowadays latest technology comes in all forms and shapes but not all of these forms of technology are really beneficial to us but we still tend to choose them. I am going to try to list a bunch of latest technology and trends that i can do without.


Here it goes,



Blue tooth Headsets.... I never liked this gadget maybe because it looks too futuristic or the fact that it makes people look like they are lunatics until you spot the headset. It makes busy people like like idiots and laymen look like they have something important to do or say. They come in various shapes and sizes and some look like something out of a Star trek and some should look plain stupid. I know some states have hands free laws and it comes in handy but i still refuse to put on one.



Roomba...... Now whoever came up with this toy and managed to package it as a househould appliance is a genius. The Roomba looks like a toy hovercraftand ppl fork out over 300 bucks to watch some device glide all over your carpet while its supposed to be picking up dirt. I have never owned one but i do know that i will not be purchasing any of this foolery.



Paper Shredders.... I never liked this appliance because for some paranoid reason i always believe that i will end up shredding some important documents that i will later regret. For now i will rather just place papers in the bin and people can sort through my trash in the meantime.



EReaders..... A lot of retailers have been advertising their various of forms of Ebooks and encouraging people to download books onto their various readers. I buy books because i like collecting them and love the covers and do not want my books to be buried inside some LCD screen that can retail for as high $400.

Fancy Coffeemakers and Expresso Makers... Yes they look like a nice accessory in the kitchen but i dont drink coffee unless i feel like splurging at starbucks everynow and then so i dont need a hot brewed coffee programmed for me to drink every morning.

Iphone... Why do i want my MP3 player merged into my phone? How about the battery power i need for my phone to stay alive and trading it for music. This is part of the problem with the world we live in now with too many people listening to music way too much and becoming tone death and also lost in the silly lyrics that were probably created after a lot of drug experimenting in the wee hours of the morning. I have said before that we dont need that much music in our lives besides i dont like smudge on my phone and you get a lot of that with the iphone besides its the coolest gadget for nerds as a conversation starter and i dont need any of those.

Flying Alarm Clock... I wish my alarm clock will try and take off just as i am about to turn it off.

WII FIT..... How about just plain ole REAL FIT in the real world.

SLR..... I get sick and tired of these grown ass folks out and about looking like professional photographers with $2000 equipments in casual places just because. I have the closest thing to a SLR but can fit in my back pocket. I like taking cool pictures but it aint that serious. I will rather party harder than have some big ole entrapment around my neck besides you can never look cool with that beast around your neck unless you are trying to nab innocent dumb chicks by posint as a professional Photographer so they can take their clothes off for you in a heartbeat.

The list goes on and on but thats all i can think of now. Feel free to add yours to the list.